How to Make the Time for Your Personal Goals??

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” - Henry Ford

One of the biggest challenges in trying to accomplish any personal goal is that we tend to put them off until tomorrow, or next week, in favor of more pressing matters at work and home.

Unfortunately, tomorrow never gets here. 

If you want to accomplish a goal, you have to start on it today. Finding the time to take the steps necessary is the problem, of course, as we all lead busy and complicated lives, and when we do have time, we’re too tired to do anything that requires energy or thought. We want to veg out in front of the TV, or take a nap.

So how do you find the time for your personal goals? That’s what reader Trin recently asked:

How to do you honestly make the time? I’m not even sure where to begin with my own goals, as I already feel I have to sacrifice something important to take care of me. I would really love your opinion, as a father of 6 children, what activities were cut out of your daily life in order to insert your personal goals?

I’m not going to be able to give an easy answer. There isn’t a single little trick I can give you to find huge blocks of time where you can pursue all the goals you’ve ever dreamed of. It takes work, it takes commitment, it takes motivation … but it can be done, without a doubt. I’ve done it — despite being married with six kids, and until recently working two jobs, I found time to train for a marathon, to work on eliminating my debt, to eat healthier, to declutter and become organized, to wake earlier, and more.

How? Again, there was no one step that did it for me, but a series of them that add up over time:

1. One goal at a time. Often the problem is that we try to take on too many goals at once. We have a list of things we want to accomplish, spanning the spectrum from gardening to learning Italian to getting in shape. It can be overwhelming, and because of that we never start. Or instead, perhaps we start with a head full of steam, but then run out of steam quickly, because it’s extremely difficult to maintain focus and energy (the two key ingredients in accomplishing a goal) for too many goals at once. Even two goals at once is difficult, if you aren’t already running on autopilot for one of those goals. For now, focus on one goal at a time. Once that’s on autopilot, you can go to the next one. Figure on at least a month per goal.
2. Make sure you really want it. It’s not enough to say, “It would be nice to learn French” or “It would be cool to do yoga every morning”. It has to be something you really want. Ask yourself why you want to achieve this goal, and how much you want it. Figure out your motivations. That’s important to do early on, or you won’t make time for it.
3. Make it your top priority. We all have multiple things to focus on in our lives, from school or work to family to errands to various goals and commitments and hobbies and civic activities. If we put all these focuses before our One Goal, we won’t ever find the time for our goal. There’s only so much time in the day. At some point, we’ve got to prioritize, and if we make our goal our top priority,we’ll make the time.
4. Reduce your commitments. I’m a big fan of simplifying your life — and one of the first things you should do when simplifying is to make a short list of the 4-5 things that are most important to you, that you want to make time for, that you love and that bring you joy. I’ve said this before, but just to give you an example, my top things are spending time with my family, writing, reading, and running. Everything else is non-essential. Once you’ve made your short list, you should reduce some of the non-essential commitments. Is being a member of the Harley-Davidson club no longer bringing you joy and fulfillment? Gracefully bow out. If you reduce at least a few commitments, you’ll now have room in your life for the things you want to do — including your personal goal.
5. Keep it simple. It’s important not to make your personal goal too complicated. You don’t want to have a huge list of things to do in order to accomplish your goal. You’ll be overwhelmed. Instead, focus on a smaller sub-goal that will lead you to your bigger goal. If you have a goal to invest for retirement, for example, make your first goal simply to learn what you need to know about investing. Make your second goal to open the necessary account and transfer money. Then make it your goal to have regular, automatic contributions and not to touch those contributions. Another approach is to focus first on creating a habit that will get you to your goal. If your goal is getting in shape, for example, focus on forming the habit of walking each day (or running, or cycling, or whatever). Once you’ve formed that habit, focus on drinking only water. Then on eating fruits and veggies instead of junk snacks. And so on, until you’ve reached your goal.
6. Stay focused. One of the most difficult things when it comes to achieving goals is maintaining your focus on that goal. It’s easy to become obsessed with something else, and when we lose focus, we suddenly stop making time for the goal. Instead, find ways to maintain that focus. Put a poster on your wall, or a printout on your fridge, or make your goal your computer desktop picture. Send yourself daily reminders. Tell others about it, in real life and on your blog, and have them ask you about it daily.
7. Block off time. OK, this is a crucial step. Maybe it should be No. 1 on this list, but I felt it important to lay the foundation with the steps above first. But once you’ve laid that foundation, you absolutely must block off time to work on your goal. Whatever time works for you — first thing in the morning, lunchtime, mid-afternoon, right after work, late at night. Try to schedule a time when you won’t be interrupted by other “urgent” requests (meetings, calls, kids, etc.) and when you have good energy. For me, that’s in the morning, as mid-afternoons are times when other things come up to interrupt your schedule (especially when I worked in an office) and early evening (right after work for most people) I tend to get a bit tired. You have to find the right block of time. Designate no less than 30 minutes, although really an hour is much, much better. Two hours isn’t feasible for most people, but your schedule might be different.
8. Make it your most important appointment. That block of time you just scheduled has to be given the utmost priority. There are appointments we take seriously — a doctor’s appointment, or an important meeting — and we will do everything we can to ensure that we make those appointments and are not late for them. “Sorry, I have a doctor’s appointment at that time — can’t take the conference call until a couple hours later.” But when it comes to our time for working on our personal goal, we will often push it back because of other pressing things. Don’t let that happen. Make that block of time on your schedule become sacrosanct, and never let it be violated.
9. Show that you’re serious. Be fully committed. Tell as many people as possible about your goal, and the scheduled block of time that is sacrosanct. Write down your goal, and be specific. If you can’t even write it down, you’re not serious. Then write out a plan, with dates and actions. Think about obstacles, and write down your strategy for overcoming them. The plan shows you’re serious.
10. Find your time wasters. In every person’s life, there are things that can easily be cut out without making much of a difference. Things that waste our time without giving us much benefit. Things such as TV, video games, fun stuff online, going to bars, etc. If you can identify those time wasters, you can free up time for working on your goals. Remember, if it’s not on your short list (No. 4 above), you can eliminate it.
11. Make it a part of your daily or weekly routine. This is important to keep the goal going for a long period of time. If it’s a goal you can complete in a week, you don’t need to do this step. But the most worthwhile goals are ones that take time to accomplish, and for those, you’ll need to make it part of your routine. Some goals will need to be daily — say, drinking water, or exercise, or perhaps decluttering. Find a time in your daily routine where you will always do this activity, and don’t let yourself drop it. Put it immediately after something that’s already firmly ingrained in your routine — say, showering or brushing your teeth, or arriving at work — so that you won’t forget to do it. For other goal activities, a weekly schedule would be better — say, making a weekly savings deposit or debt payment, or a weekly yoga class — put this on your calendar and have a reminder sent to you so you don’t forget it.

“Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.”

I love the tips then i apply to my own 2012 goals..Perhaps it's work following the tips. In this fews day, i browse about 'MY GOAL' to understand what it is exactly and how it is work. After years i just started my life without direction (i consider our goal is direction) and i want to change my lifestyle from complacent attitude to serious think develop my life. Not so much add on for beginner of 2012, i decided to make my goals more practical and easy with my efforts. 

My Goal to get my job as a Marketing Executive in Shopping Mall cause i had a experieced in this field. What i do know is could have 2 choice huge basic salary or small basic but a lots commission bases. For 6 months begin, i should take huge basic salary could be RM 4k+allowances. 

• 1st my GOAL- I count my expanses could be RM 2K monthly (maximum) so i still have RM2K in my hand. I saved RM1K for saving permanently x 12 months=RM12K. I target for 3 years mean my saving will be total RM36K.

• 2nd my GOAL - My Oil palm plantation i will start from 500-3000 pcs. I will harvest the oil palm after 3 years. (I must calculate the Oil Palm Plant costing details). I must put all my planned properly in my My Oil Palm Plantation paper..as my guide in future. It's like business plan paperwork. With my paperwork, we work it out and i know all under manage and at least i know what is in and out cash. For yr information, why i has decide Oil Palm Plantation for my future business? I admit it need a lots cost involve but u must understand that we call investment for long term. I had do calculated my sister Oil Palm Plantation, she's income average monthly is about RM 15K (Max) and RM8K (Min)..a lots of money? I haven advantage cause my family owe big land in Sarawak. I get my outline for Oil Palm Plantation so i will focus & work it our slowly after 1 year.

• 3rd my GOAL - Prudential Insurance to protect me from risk and others benefit. RM200 monthly actually it is save my worry from anything but if i will die tomorrow, it's not my power to stop it. I believe Allah want we do our best thing. Please don't thing yr saving can save u when u get accident (for example), it's not enough to cover up yr bills during u healing period and in case if u have a family to spent in monthly..Listen to me cause i had a experieced through all this. Please love yrself first and then u fit love someone in yr life. U will lucky are made in the family of cheap money, but imagine if you have no savings, no family to help, no protection from any source .. you will be very sad, crying, against fate and moral will weaken yourself to heal yourself quickly. We do not know how we will bear the cost of all our healing. But with no insurance coverage, you will at least financial resources for hospital bills and treatment may involve surgery requires a high cost medical system. You will feel relieved and just focus on healing. 

• 4th my GOAL - I love so much my mother, i only have her as a my parent in this life. I has planned to bring her travel to Singapore maybe for 2-3 days. I will give her some money and bring her tour Singapore nice places. Actually not only in Singapore, perhap i have other oppurtunity, i want bring her to Indonesia and Brunei. I want see her happy, laugh and smile think she should being happy after through this life. I want her health until the right time i could bring her to stay with me in KL for the while..4-5 days. I knew she love eat prawns..Yah but not so good for her health, a lots of salt. 

• 5th my GOAL - I will marry someone who loved me so much. I do appreaciate him kind during i m healing from accident, he's a lots helped me, loved me without count my bad conditions. It's miracle but i believe Allah loved me so much..We had planned do simple wedding party, maybe follow traditional kenyah and we choose to do it with our family in Sarawak. Insyaalah.

All of us wanted a good life, easy way and have a lots of money..i wish it too but we understood life ain't easy we think. Everyone have their own challenging sometimes make us felt down and up.we was cried, laugh and hated it. I believed our experieced lead us to be more strong and sharped our patience through our future..New day, new challenging, new place, new people and new experiecied too. Please don't scare but brave to face any challenging come forward to our future. Good Luck for yr goals. I love u all people's. 

U're WINNER from others so believe it U're THE ONE !!